Who hands over first?

Nobody, and that is the point.

A used camera. Four million rupiah. Two people who met in a forum an hour ago.

The seller

Money before the camera leaves

Fear

Ships first, no transfer arrives, camera gone

The buyer

Camera before the money leaves

Fear

Pays first, nothing ships, money gone

Neither position is unreasonable. Taking turns does not resolve it, it only picks which one carries the whole risk.

What actually happens

They meet in a food court

Works, and caps the market at people within driving distance.

One of them swallows the risk

Usually the party who wants the deal more, which is not a principle.

The sale does not happen

Between strangers with no shared history this is the most common outcome.

A working secondhand market gets strangled by a problem that has nothing to do with anyone's honesty.

Have you walked away from a sale because somebody had to go first?

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Neither First does not
  • Hold funds at any point
  • Take custody of goods
  • List, sell or advertise anything
  • Charge a percentage of a sale
  • Judge who was right when a deal goes wrong